The Power of Loving Relationship
By Michael de Glanville & Viola Edward….
A Constant Presence.
Enfolded by the steady soothing rhythm of breathing and heartbeat, rocked by movement and immersed in the warm, soft, comforting fluid darkness of the uterus, the foetus becomes aware of the presence of the other, the energy of the mother. Our experience of relationship begins when, as that embryo in the womb, we first become conscious of being. From then onwards, we live continuously in relationship with other beings and with other energies as well as with ourselves. From that moment we will continue to relate with people, with concepts, material items and possessions, until the concluding day when the spirit leaves our body. Day in, day out, relationship is constantly present, and how we manage to relate will influence all our experiences, for the better or the worse.
Perhaps, of all the projects that we undertake to “become successful” in our lives, the study and practice of healthy relationship skills has the greatest potential to bring us joy, pleasure and contentment, and yet, instead of signing up for courses at school, alongside our classes of maths and geography, we are more likely to piece together our relationship skills by modelling the widely varying success of the examples we have around us in our homes and our communities.
If we decided to embark on an exploration of relationship, we could learn to feel empathy, rather than be absorbed by our own needs, we could resolve to be courageous and active, meeting the experience, rather than turning away in fear of the risk of failure. Sometimes, the most difficult task to accomplish will be simply to say “I’m sorry”. We can practice awareness and develop sensitivity, looking carefully, seeing the signs displayed by body language, listening attentively to the story between the lines, hearing the coded messages, ready to learn from the trials life sends us, for all life experiences have a teaching, including the mistakes and the painful ones. “The only useless experiences are the ones that we do not learn from”.
A Search for Fulfilment.
Our longing for the carefree pleasure of giving and receiving love may come from our wish to re-experience the bliss that was felt during our embryo months, but whatever the origin, we all seem to carry that deep seated yearning. In childhood the choice of source of love is often simple. In happy circumstances, the object of devotion for some time will be the mother, or the father, or both. In our adult lives, the search for fulfillment can lead us into deep loving sexual relationships and we are drawn into that transformative arena by our desire and our hormones like moths to a flame. The experience of healthy loving relationship can contribute in a many positive, powerful ways to our physical, mental, and spiritual well being. The experience of dysfunctional relationships can damage us deeply.
Desire Motivates our Return.
It is in the hectic workshop of daily life with a loving partner that our relationship skills will be most severely tested, and it is in this same workshop that we have a really wonderful opportunity for learning, because our love, our dreams and our desire motivate our constant returns to the task of developing a successful healthy relationship. By choosing to see loving relationship as one of the greatest learning opportunities we can be given, we open up the pathway towards nurturing the very essence of our souls.
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About Viola & Michael
Viola came to Cyprus from Venezuela in 2002 to join Michael who was born on the island and returned from France in 1999. Viola and Michael are both therapists and trainers in Breathwork and they founded Kayana Ltd. in 2003. Viola specialises in Relationship Coaching, Business Consulting and Colour and Image. Michael has an engineering background and specialises in Massage and Watsu.