Our Innate Capabilities
By Michael de Glanville & Viola Edward…..
Any Questions for us?
Question: It seems to me that I have always been scared just waiting for the next bad thing that is going to happen in my life. I’m going to lose what I have, people are going to deceive me, these things have happened to me so many times already. I can’t enjoy the company of happy people, I don’t trust them, I think they are faking it. What can I do? I have come to the conclusion that I will never be able just to BE, to change the pessimism and the anger that I feel.
Thank you for sharing your feelings with us. It seems that you have felt overwhelmed by life’s events. Losses of people and possessions that take place in early childhood are particularly difficult changes to integrate as we are so dependent on our carers and so vulnerable and without defences at that time. However, from your question, we can see that you have not only survived these trials, you have also been able to build things and maybe you also have a family of your own? You have managed to strengthen yourself in spite of the setbacks, because you intuitively understood that you have many innate qualities and capabilities and have used them to carry on with life.
We all have the capacity to love and the capacity to learn.
What is needed now, is that you review those capabilities and make them work for you, firstly, by learning to regulate and interconnect them and secondly, integrating those painful events as ‘experiences in life’ that have helped to create the person you are, with all your potential. Maybe you will need some Coaching, Breathwork and/or Psychotherapy sessions to support you in this healing of the traumas, as sometimes it is not easy to fully heal them by yourself.
To conclude, let us share with you these inspiring words from Nelson Mandela: “Our deepest fear is not of being inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond our dreams. It is not the darkness that we are really frightened of but the light. You might ask how it is that we are all so brilliant, charming, talented and fabulous. When it comes down to it, why aren’t we? We are all children of light. Our individual contribution, albeit small, is valid for everybody. There is nothing enlightening in withdrawing yourself from other people so they won’t feel unsafe in your presence. We were born to manifest the glory of life that is inside of us, and not just some of us but all of us. As we let the light within us shine, we consciously allow others to do the same and when we rid ourselves of our fears, our presence automatically frees others”.
If you are interested in deepening your knowledge about “Conscious relationship” you can participate in sessions with Viola and Michael, in person and online.
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You can download a free copy of Viola’s book “Breathing the Rhythm of Success” and find a collection of previous articles in this series from www.violaedward.com
About Viola & Michael.
Viola came to Cyprus from Venezuela in 2002 to join Michael who was born on the Island and returned from France in 1999. Viola and Michael are both trained therapists in Breathwork and they founded Kayana Ltd in 2003. Viola specialises in Relationship Coaching, Business Consulting and Colour and Image. Michael has an Engineering background and specialises in Massage and Watsu.